3

Seniors and New Technology: 5 Big Mistakes to Avoid

Artemis & Leto, Artemis and Leto, aging parents, seniors technology

Do your aging parents resist adopting useful new technology? Try avoiding these 5 common mistakes when introducing new technology to your aging parents.

My Mom is what experts might call a “late-to-never” adopter of new technology. If she could go back to the rotary phone, she would. So as I sat down to write her a hand-written letter asking if she was interested in starting this website with me, I knew I had to introduce her to certain 21st-century technological conveniences, like laptop computers and Google.

After the first conversation, here’s what I’ve learned DOESN’T work:

1. Don’t Assume Your Aging Parents Know

As I was outlining the idea of this website to my Mom, I kept using words like “blog” and “tweet” and “Pinterest.” I started to hear crickets on the phone line. Why on Earth would she know what a “tweet” was? Even I barely know what “Pinterest” is! (The apple didn’t fall far from the tree: I’m what experts might call a “later-than-late” adopter.)

When explaining new technology to your aging parents, don’t just plow through the conversation with a bunch of techno-jargon. Take the time to give a concise explanation of anything unfamiliar.

2. Don’t Assume They Don’t Know

The flipside of the previous point: Be careful not to assume that your aging parents aren’t familiar with certain techno-things. For example, my Mom has a basic cell phone and she loves to text (in fact, it shocked the whole family how easily she adopted texting).

Before introducing your aging parents to new technology, ask them some questions about what they are familiar with (if you don’t already know).

3. Don’t Make It All About You

I’m very guilty of this one. I’m already stressed: I have to figure out by which date my Mom has to mail out her handwritten article drafts. I have to type them up when they get here, days later. I have to print out everything, stuff it all into envelopes, buy stamps, and finally mail it all. Pain in my ass!

In our situation, snail-mail collaboration is nightmarishly difficult for me. But, for my Mom, it works just fine, so why would she want to have a laptop, learn how to check her email, or get a Skype account? That’s it exactly: The key question is not why do I want her to, but why might she want to add these things to her lifestyle?

Try changing your perspective. Figure out what might entice your aging parents to adopt a new technology. For example, my Mom was a firm, no-nonsense parent, but now she’s a sickeningly doting grandparent. Staying in better touch with my near-cyborg nephew may be just the motivation she needs.

4. Don’t Condescend

I sometimes over-simplifying things when I talk technology with my Mom. I’m not proud to admit it (and please don’t hate me for it!), but I catch myself “talking down” to her, as if she were in kindergarten. I don’t mean to, but it’s still an jerk move.

Try to use the same tone and demeanor that you would use with anyone in your peer group.

5. Don’t Teach Them Yourself

Sometimes parents have a hard time learning from their children. It’s about a reversal in the relationship dynamic – child becomes the teacher. It’s not personal, but it could be hindering the adoption of new technology.

Try asking a techno-savvy friend or peer of your aging parents to introduce the new technology. Or, check out your local library or community center for technology classes for seniors or older adults. They might prefer to learn from a teacher in a more traditional class setting, rather than from their own child.

How about you? Have you had an interesting experience introducing a senior to new technology?

     –Good luck, we’re all gonna need it!

If you found this article useful, join our email list. And don’t forget to follow us on Twitter (@ArtemisandLeto) or Pinterest (Artemis & Leto) because you don’t want to miss out on anything!

Additional Resources:

Comments 3

  1. All the best to both of you with this new venture. What a good idea to make it a joint effort with your Mum.
    My own late mother had a computer but refused to set it up in a way that was comfortable to use, even though she said she “felt left out” when we talked about the internet.
    And lo, my millennial daughter is now vowing to retire early just to get away from the technology – I guess “moderation” is the answer for us all!

    1. Post
      Author

      Thanks for commenting, Maddy! Ha ha, I think you’ve just proposed the “Goldy Locks Theory of Technology”: not too little, not too much, just right. 🙂 PS. Thanks for the best wishes and nice feedback! My Mom has always wanted to be a writer (but life sorta happened), so she is excited to finally have the opportunity to write now that she’s retired.

  2. Pingback: Writing the Digital Page: A Baby Boomer Blogging Adventure | Artemis and Leto

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published.

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.